Emotional vulnerability is not bad
By ANEESA MOIDOO, PSYCHOLOGIST
Being vulnerable means showing your feelings even when you’re not sure how others will react. Learning to be vulnerable involves being open and willing to love and be loved, even though it might be a bit scary.
Many people are afraid of being vulnerable, but if you understand why it’s important, you might see that it’s worth the effort. Being open with those you care about can deepen your relationships and make you feel more connected.
Vulnerability isn’t always easy, though. It includes things like talking about your feelings, admitting when you make mistakes, and being honest about what you need. Understanding why being open is hard for you can help you learn to be more vulnerable with the people you trust. Why is vulnerability important? Well, according to expert Brené Brown, it shows courage and allows people to see and understand you.
Being vulnerable helps create real connections and fosters authenticity, a sense of belonging, and love. Accepting vulnerability brings emotional benefits like increased confidence and resilience. It also strengthens relationships by deepening compassion and connection with others.
Plus, it helps you accept and embrace different parts of yourself, boosting confidence and authenticity. But why do some people fear being vulnerable even when it’s a good thing? Well, vulnerability is linked to tough emotions like disappointment, shame, and grief.
It’s also tied to fears of rejection and abandonment. Examples of vulnerability include taking risks that might lead to rejection, talking about your mistakes, sharing personal details, feeling difficult emotions, reconnecting with someone you’ve had issues with, and being honest about what you need in a relationship.
As we grow up, we might become less open because we learn that the world can be tough. We start protecting ourselves by building emotional walls and using defense mechanisms like denial. These defenses, while normal, can isolate us and block the flow of love and positive emotions.
Some people become emotionally distant, while others play a push-and-pull game in relationships. The fear of vulnerability can even lead to unintentionally hurting others. To be more vulnerable, try embracing your true self, aiming for excellence (not perfection), and learning to love and accept yourself, flaws and all.
Acknowledge and learn from your mistakes without letting them define you. Remember, you’re important, and your existence has a positive impact. Stop trying to prove your worth, avoid being a people-pleaser, and offer yourself based on love rather than fear. If being open is tough, seek help from professionals or through spiritual counseling. Overcoming the fear of vulnerability can be life-changing, allowing you to build deeper connections and live more authentically.
(The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the official policy or position of the Daily Tribune)